Q: You overlooked the danger when you replied to the woman who was invited on a hiking date by a man she’d had a crush on. You said that he probably got interested because he saw her with her new boyfriend. Well, he could also have wanted to murder her because of that. Every year, there’s news of a female body being found in a remote area — or not found after a disappearance.

Q: A divorced male friend and I recently became “friends with benefits.” However, I'm not receiving the same, uh, level of benefits as he is. He isn’t giving me orgasms from intercourse, and his pleasuring of me is measured in seconds rather than minutes, despite my telling him that this is a problem.

divorce his wife for me. He has been married five times and cheated on all of his wives. I have reason to believe he'euro;'s still having sex with his ex-wife. I´m not sure what to do. I refinanced my house a few months after meeting him and paid off his and his wife´s $14,000 credit card debt (my idea, to help him out of the marriage).

Q: I’m starting to have feelings for this guy friend I’ve been fooling around with, but I’m worried he isn’t feeling the same way. He’s stopped short of having full-blown intercourse with me, which I find odd, although I don’t want to have sex yet because I have genital herpes and I’m not ready to tell him. (I take an antiviral drug for this daily, and I’d have him wear protection during intercourse.) Do you think he knows I have herpes? Maybe he just isn’t interested in me romantically and doesn’t want me getting too attached. —Puzzled

Q: My girlfriend s best friend is her ex. They broke up six years ago (upon mutual agreement). She swears she s much happier being his friend and says they both feel they weren t meant to be romantic partners. Well, she clearly adores the hell out of him, and he s her go-to guy for her problems (family, career, and probably any issues with me). She respects my opinion, but sometimes I feel she only asks for it so I won t feel second banana to him. We ve only been dating eight months, and I feel she believes what she says about their friendship, but part of me worries that she s still in love with him but not aware of it. During one of their long phone chats, if he said he wanted to be with her after all, I suspect I d be dumped fast. Second Best

Q: Two years ago, my man left his 22-year marriage to be with me, but he told me he loved his former wife and would always want a friendship with her. I accepted that (I m friends with my ex), but I m bothered by the amount of contact they have. They do have two adult children and own property together. But, although she s living with a new partner, she sometimes wants to borrow his car, have him pick up the dogs, or drop off some paperwork. They phone about every other day, and not a week goes by without his stopping over occasionally for a family dinner. I get plenty of his time, energy and affection, and I know their relationship isn t romantic. The issue is split loyalty all the effort he s putting into remaining loving friends with a woman who d love to see our relationship fail. Am I being petty and jealous? It feels like she’s clinging hard and so is he.

It cost you, what, $3,000 the price of a TV the size of a small European country to have her personally deliver the news that she wouldn t be having sex with you? You d be leading your friends in fuming if you hadn t gotten all tangled up in your self-image as a gentleman.

Some women do volunteer work; some women date it. You and your boyfriend are a classic combination, the drug addict and the enabler. Addict behavior is immature brat behavior throwing over tomorrow to get your rocks off (or snort some rock) today.

Q: I’m in a great relationship of seven months. My boyfriend and I never get sick Amy alkon of each other. We respect each other and are there for each other, and we talk very openly, even when we re upset. His ex-girlfriend is part of our group of friends. She is thin and very pretty. I know I m attractive, but I m struggling to lose these 10 pounds I put on in college. Also, she s super-sweet, and she and my boyfriend broke up because he cheated on her. He told her right away and felt sick about it for a long time, so I m not worried that he d cheat on me. Friends tell me how much he loves me, and he even told me he d feel lost without me. Still, I get nervous when they re alone or talking a lot. I haven t said anything about her being around so much, but I know other girls wouldn t stand for it. Jealous

Q: I have a good relationship with my boyfriend of a year except for how he Amy alkon ignores me when he s stressed. The first time this happened, he disappeared for a week and didn t respond to texts or voicemails. He later explained he d been swamped with work and apologized repeatedly. Last weekend, he again disappeared for a week. After I texted and left voicemails, he finally texted, Work is big right now. He has told me he likes me because I don’t complain or try to get his attention when he s busy. Actually, I m a wreck when he disappears. My ex would also ignore me for weeks and then text like nothing had happened. Stupid me for staying around for two years, as it ultimately ended when he texted me that he couldn’t talk to me anymore because he d gotten married.