Q: I've been with my boyfriend for a year. We were best friends and talked about everything — what our kids would be like, projects we'd do together, magical worlds, and even other people we found attractive. Then, on his computer, I accidentally clicked on what I thought was just some porn video, but I recognized his blanket and realized it was he and his ex-girlfriend having sex (when they were dating).

Q: My wife needs a medical test that will involve her being naked in unflattering positions in front of another person, possibly male. I know she won't enjoy this and it certainly isn't sexual, but I want her to request a female gynecologist. She says she's embarrassed to do that, refuses to be controlled by me, and says having a male doctor doesn’t bother her. Well, it bothers me terribly.

Q: My boyfriend of three months seems wonderful. He is attentive and tries hard to please me, even in small ways (like always making sure I get tea I like when we're out). Soon after we started dating, a relative of mine died, and he made a real effort to check in on my well-being. He's always excited to see me; we kiss a lot right at the door. However, he never compliments me.

Q: Ten years ago, my friend and I met our husbands on the same night (they were friends who challenged us to a game of pool), and we both got married the same year. We all pledged to spend our 10th anniversary in Hawaii together, but my friend's husband is making it difficult, saying no to every flight, activity, and hotel my friend and I propose.

Q: What are your thoughts on gently dissuading a person from making a total fool of herself on Facebook? A woman I know had her husband leave her for the woman he was cheating on her with. She's been venting about this almost daily on Facebook, in sometimes blistering detail, and I'm truly embarrassed for her. She's looking for a job, and a prospective employer could see these posts (as could potential future boyfriends). Shockingly, not one of her 443 Facebook friends has suggested she put a lid on it.

Q: A male friend just tried to booty call me (texting after midnight that he was horny). I'm angry and revolted. I've known he's liked me, thanks to his constant icky comments all over my Facebook photos, even while I was in a serious relationship. I deleted most, thinking he'd get the hint, and after my relationship ended, I hinted further by posting about how in love I still was with my ex.

Q: I'm a 34-year-old woman, dating a 27-year-old guy for three months. We have a great time together, but he's balking at making an official commitment, meaning he doesn't want to call us boyfriend and girlfriend.

Q: My boyfriend and I were invited to dinner at our friends' house. An hour after the appointed time, another friend of theirs, a woman who's been single for at least a decade, still hadn't left her house. She called with a crisis about what she was bringing, wearing, etc. (She always seems to have some crisis.)

Q: Why are women so worked up about hearing "those three little words," and why must they turn them into such a minefield? If a man says "I love you" too soon, he gets dumped because he's a clingy, needy Nice Guy. If he waits too long, he gets dumped as a suspected commitment-phobe.

Q: I've loved my fiancee deeply for her intelligence and beautiful personality since the day we met five years ago. However, I don't think I was ever really attracted to her. In fact, lately, I'm increasingly repulsed by her.