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Wednesday, November 17,2010

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Plain and suffering & Till death grip do us part

by Amy Alkon
Q: Guys pay a lot of attention to my drop-dead gorgeous friend when we go out. So, what can you do if you’re her not-as-pretty sidekick? I can honestly say I’m cute, especially when I’m all dressed up. I’m told I have a great personality, but I know I lack a certain confidence many women have, and maybe that’s making things harder when we’re in bars and clubs.—Pretty Unsure Of Myself
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Wednesday, November 3,2010

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Settle sore & Lack of space, the final frontier

by Amy Alkon
Q: I’m a 23-year-old law student with a boyfriend who attends grad school 16 hours away. We’re both swamped at school, so we visit once a month. I've only been with one other guy, but I hate the dating scene. Still, maybe I need to date around to make sure he’s the right ...
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Wednesday, October 27,2010

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Giving her paws & As fat would have it

by Amy Alkon
I’ve been dating a great guy for three years. I occasionally get invited to work functions, and I’d like to take him, but I can’t trust him to act appropriately (not grope me in front of my co-workers, make inappropriate small talk, etc.). The thought of bringing him makes me so anxious that I go by myself. Recently, we went to two concerts he wanted to see, and I kept having to pry his hands off my breasts in the middle of a crowd.
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Wednesday, October 20,2010

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When plush comes to shove & Legume squad

by Amy Alkon
Q: I fear I’ve already turned off the new guy I’m dating because of a ritual I can’t seem to give up. I sleep with a stuffed bunny. I’m in my mid-30s, but I’ve had it since childhood, and I just find sleeping with it comforting. For the first month of dating this guy, I didn’t bring it to bed. But now that I’m feeling more relaxed with him, I grab for it after we’ve finished our intimate stuff. He seems rather unimpressed, to say the least. The other night, he said something like “Now, how old are you again?” Is this something I need to stop doing, or something that somebody who cares about me should just accept?—Can’t Let Go Of Floppy
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Wednesday, October 13,2010

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Pier Pressure & Gregory Pecs

by Amy Alkon
Q: I got laid off when my company relocated. I was unemployed for 10 months while I tried unsuccessfully to find a job. During this time, my wife resented that she was working and I was “off.” She’d criticize the housework I did, saying I never dusted or swept well enough. She also complained that all her friends are going on vacations and cruises, and not us. I reminded her that, in this economy, many people who are financially strapped take “staycations.” She said that doesn’t make her feel better, and that she took more cruises and trips before she got married. I finally found a temporary but very stressful managerial job, and she now complains that I don’t have as much time for her. Is there hope for us?—Can’t Win
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Wednesday, October 6,2010

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Putting the spark plugs in the relationship & Sloshed in translation

by Amy Alkon
Q: Five years ago, My Love and I shared our first kiss. Since then, we’ve been seeing each other three times a week for an hour. We spend this hour in his truck being intimate. We love each other. We talk about getting married, how we’ll spend our retirement years, where we&rsq...
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Wednesday, September 29,2010

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I’m knot with the band & Wife of the party

by Amy Alkon
Q: I’m 28 and my boyfriend of five years is 29. I’m ready to get married, and he’s flat-out not, but wants us to stay together. Our maturity levels vary greatly. I’m getting my Ph.D. while working full time. He has a job, but can’t save or manage money and jus...
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Wednesday, September 15,2010

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Wuss it something I said? & Pair pressure

by Amy Alkon
Q: I’m 23, and not unsuccessful with women, just in finding one who wants to stick with me. I approach women two ways: hook up, then part company, or, if I have strong feelings, I work the gentleman angle — ask the woman out, spend quality time with her, and hold off on making moves until we get to know each other. This approach always fails, and I get friendzoned. I used to tell myself they were afraid of commitment, but more than once, I’ve watched these women get a boyfriend shortly afterward.—Not A Player
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Wednesday, September 8,2010

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Petaling as fast as he can & Giving him the dry heave-ho

by Amy Alkon
Q: I met my dream girl in my poker group in grad school. I recently moved far away to start my own company, but I plan to move back in about six months, once it’s up and running. I just learned on Facebook that she and her boyfriend broke up, so I sent her flowers. She posted a picture of them and thanked me publicly on Facebook, but hasn’t answered my e-mail asking about her plans after grad school. I don’t think she’s too interested in me, so I need some good ideas. I’m on a shoestring budget, so what can I do from 1,000 miles away that would rub her the right way?—Hopeful
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Wednesday, September 1,2010

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Rivals and departures & Canine and a half weeks

by Amy Alkon
I’ve been dating a guy I really like for a month. He’s been in a long-distance relationship with a woman since last spring. They spend a week together every couple of months, and were off and on for a few years prior. She’s coming to visit for three weeks next month, and afterward, they plan to part for good, as she’ll be working in another country. I want to be mature about this, but if he wants a relationship with me (he says he does), I don’t understand this big romantic last hurrah with her. He says it’s unfortunate timing, and he has to have this goodbye fling, as it’s been planned for a long time. I’m feeling like the consolation prize and question his level of interest in me. Am I being an unreasonable princess?
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