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Wednesday, March 21,2012

Advice Goddess

Bodies at rust & beer your soul

by Amy Alkon
Q: I’m a recently divorced 40-something woman, now dating again, and I’m wondering what the guidelines are on how long to wait to have sex. I’m not interested in casual sex, but I have a healthy libido. If I’m really attracted to a man, I’ll be dealing with some powerful mixed (internal) signals regarding how long to wait. Really what I want is to have sex with a man I like as soon as reasonably possible without getting labeled by him (consciously or subconsciously) as an expendable floozy.
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Wednesday, March 14,2012

Advice Goddess

Lard Of the dance & memory bank fraud

by Amy Alkon
Q: When I got married, I was a slim 6’2”, but I’ve gained a lot of weight. My wife gained about 20 pounds but recently lost that and more. I’ve been as high as 265, but I’m now at 238 and losing about a pound a week, which isn’t fast enough for my wife. When I contemplate going on a stricter diet, what comes to mind is feeling angry, tired, and hungry at my high-stress job. My wife said that I obviously love food more than her, and that if I won’t lose weight for her, maybe I’ll do it for our boys.
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Wednesday, March 7,2012

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The spinster cycle

by Amy Alkon
Q: I’m a 32-year-old woman with a Ph.D. I’m beyond happy with my career path, but I’m not meeting men I’m impressed with or inspired to see again. A girlfriend sent me a New York Times op-ed by a historian named Stephanie Coontz, who said that highly educated women can find a man if they drop “the cultural ideal of hypergamy — that women must marry up.”
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Wednesday, February 29,2012

Advice Goddess

Have a peasant day & meek her want you

by Amy Alkon
Q: Your answer to “Roseless,” the woman bemoaning her boyfriend’s lack of “romantic ambition,” hit a nerve with me. My wife of 19 years and I shared equally in raising our three children. She only sort of “works” now, but I do the home chores an...
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Wednesday, February 22,2012

Advice Goddess

Looking for the gaia next door & sperm limits

by Amy Alkon
I'm an Occupy girl, age 45, into eco-shamanism and planetary consciousness stuff. I've mostly dated engineers with a playful side who initially seemed open to my interests but quickly became resentful of them. My boyfriend of two years is different...
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Wednesday, February 15,2012

Advice Goddess

Dim and her & I'm with Cupid

by Amy Alkon
I'm having a whirlwind romance with a man I met online on Thanksgiving. I moved across the country to live with him on December 20, and we’re now building a life together. The problem is I have a high IQ (137), and he’s very unintelligent and illogical.
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Wednesday, February 8,2012

Advice Goddess

Some unenchanted evenings & once you go Lewis Black…

by Amy Alkon
My boyfriend lacks romantic ambition. In our two years together, we’ve never gone out to dinner someplace I can wear a dress and heels, and he never brings me flowers or does anything for our anniversary or Valentine’s Day. Ive suggested he pick out lingerie he’d like to see me in and shown him how to set a romantic mood in our apartment.
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Wednesday, February 1,2012

Advice Goddess

Shove thy neighbor & idle worship

by Amy Alkon
Reality, like angry little dogs, often bites. Every day, I wake up wishing for home-invasion housecleaners. But, as much as both Nature and I abhor a vacuum, at a certain point, I have to pull one out, lest my rugs provide shelter to a lot of little things with a lot of little legs.
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Wednesday, January 25,2012

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Code goo & world wide web of lies

by Amy Alkon
I bet the doc doesn’t have patients show up at whim: “Hi, I was in the neighborhood, and I thought I’d have a physical.”
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Wednesday, January 18,2012

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Witchful thinking & Baby, I need your oven

by Amy Alkon
A “love” like hers sends chills down a man’s spine — that is, when the man happens to have one. Did you forget yours at the airport? Maybe leave it at a hotel? Although your wife is engaging in outrageous emotional abuse, your reaction — your fear of her rage, which she uses to control you and get her way — is what keeps it going.
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