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Tuesday, August 28,2012

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Catfight club and two shrieks to the wind

by Amy Alkon
Q: My boyfriend of two years is best friends with his ex. During their 14-year relationship, he says they had a codependency, becoming each other's social world. They were still roommates when we started dating, and she refused to even let me into their house. He says he'd like us to become casual friends and includes us both in group events like a recent hike. On it, I tried to be friendly, but she pretty much ignored me. Afterward, I told him it was awkward spending the day with someone who has issues with me.
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Friday, August 17,2012

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The Dark Mite & just tasing

by Amy Alkon
Q: I've been separated from my wife for three years, but I find myself craving her. I say "crave" because I don't think I ever really loved her. We only got together 15 years ago because she asked me out.
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Wednesday, August 8,2012

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Attention defici—oooh, shiny!

by Amy Alkon
Q: My girlfriend of eight months has ADHD (attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder). She was diagnosed about 10 years ago, in her early 20s.
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Wednesday, August 1,2012

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Love me tinder & mommy disappearest

by Amy Alkon
Q: I met a woman, and we hit it off like wildfire. It seemed everything she said and did was perfect. In six months, we were engaged. She and her four kids moved in with me and my two kids. Shortly afterward, it turned sour.
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Wednesday, July 25,2012

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Better luck nest time & you deplete me

by Amy Alkon
Q: For nine months, I've been having fun seeing a nice woman a few times a week. We're both 50ish. I told her I didn't want a serious relationship. She went along with this but now clearly wants more. She has a picture of me at her desk.
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Wednesday, July 18,2012

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Bitter homes and gardens & making shove last

by Amy Alkon
Q: If your wife says another man's name while making love, what does that mean? It was her ex's name — my stepson's dad. She apologized, saying it was only because she remembered needing to call him about problems their son's having at school.
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Wednesday, July 11,2012

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Dew drop your pants & snail male

by Amy Alkon
Q: I broke up with my guy a while ago, which was the right thing to do. But, I’ve found myself hooking up with guys for no reason other than getting caught in a provocative moment. Of course, as you’ve often written, men and women are very different when it comes to casual sex, and what’s casual for men ends up feeling not so casual for a lot of women. Including me. So, I have to wonder, knowing what I know, why I keep going for pleasure and excitement in the moment when I know I will feel empty afterward.
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Thursday, July 5,2012

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Mourning breath & deflower arrangement

by Amy Alkon
Q: At 19, I married the first man I slept with. He died last year after 23 years of marriage, and within a month, I was in a new relationship with a wonderful man I met online. I’m certainly still grieving, sometimes horribly, but my new man understands, and he’s patient. He appreciates me and insists on my total commitment to him (meaning that I can’t date anyone else). The problem is, he lives in another state, and in our year together, his work schedule has kept him from visiting me. He can make me quiver when we talk on the phone, but the distance leaves me lonely at night. Can a long-distance relationship ever work?
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Wednesday, June 27,2012

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Captain hookup & I.C.U. naked

by Amy Alkon
Q: My boyfriend’s mother has been in the hospital for several weeks. She is slowly progressing but still isn’t doing well. He’s been spending his days with her, but tomorrow is our anniversary, and he wants us to have sex while his brother stays with her. He says it will be a stress reliever for him, but I just don’t feel right about it, given his mother’s condition. —Uncomfortable
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Wednesday, June 20,2012

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Thrilla in vanilla & getting into your genes

by Amy Alkon
Q: My best friend is a guy. We have tons in common and have conversations that are lively, honest, and deep. He’s basically everything I’ve ever wanted in my future husband, but he has an infatuation for Filipina women half his age. I’m 37, his age, and Caucasian. His plan is to find and marry a girl from the Philippines. In fact, he is so stuck on marrying a Filipina that he is learning to speak Tagalog and travels to the Philippines twice a year but has yet to have anything work out. I maintain hope that he’ll eventually develop the attraction to me that I have for him and that compatibility will trump looks, because he often tells me how much he appreciates me. Am I fooling myself, or could he outgrow his Filipina fetish?
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