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Wednesday, July 18,2012

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Bitter homes and gardens & making shove last

by Amy Alkon
Q: If your wife says another man's name while making love, what does that mean? It was her ex's name — my stepson's dad. She apologized, saying it was only because she remembered needing to call him about problems their son's having at school.
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Wednesday, July 11,2012

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Dew drop your pants & snail male

by Amy Alkon
Q: I broke up with my guy a while ago, which was the right thing to do. But, I’ve found myself hooking up with guys for no reason other than getting caught in a provocative moment. Of course, as you’ve often written, men and women are very different when it comes to casual sex, and what’s casual for men ends up feeling not so casual for a lot of women. Including me. So, I have to wonder, knowing what I know, why I keep going for pleasure and excitement in the moment when I know I will feel empty afterward.
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Thursday, July 5,2012

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Mourning breath & deflower arrangement

by Amy Alkon
Q: At 19, I married the first man I slept with. He died last year after 23 years of marriage, and within a month, I was in a new relationship with a wonderful man I met online. I’m certainly still grieving, sometimes horribly, but my new man understands, and he’s patient. He appreciates me and insists on my total commitment to him (meaning that I can’t date anyone else). The problem is, he lives in another state, and in our year together, his work schedule has kept him from visiting me. He can make me quiver when we talk on the phone, but the distance leaves me lonely at night. Can a long-distance relationship ever work?
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Wednesday, June 27,2012

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Captain hookup & I.C.U. naked

by Amy Alkon
Q: My boyfriend’s mother has been in the hospital for several weeks. She is slowly progressing but still isn’t doing well. He’s been spending his days with her, but tomorrow is our anniversary, and he wants us to have sex while his brother stays with her. He says it will be a stress reliever for him, but I just don’t feel right about it, given his mother’s condition. —Uncomfortable
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Wednesday, June 20,2012

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Thrilla in vanilla & getting into your genes

by Amy Alkon
Q: My best friend is a guy. We have tons in common and have conversations that are lively, honest, and deep. He’s basically everything I’ve ever wanted in my future husband, but he has an infatuation for Filipina women half his age. I’m 37, his age, and Caucasian. His plan is to find and marry a girl from the Philippines. In fact, he is so stuck on marrying a Filipina that he is learning to speak Tagalog and travels to the Philippines twice a year but has yet to have anything work out. I maintain hope that he’ll eventually develop the attraction to me that I have for him and that compatibility will trump looks, because he often tells me how much he appreciates me. Am I fooling myself, or could he outgrow his Filipina fetish?
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Wednesday, June 13,2012

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Motherly Shove & Look What The Catty Dragged In

by Amy Alkon
Q: I am in my 20s and, for eight months, have been seeing a girl who might very well be “the one.” The problem is she wants to meet my mother, who is beyond controlling. She plays a game with girls I date, which I call “the 20 questions of doom.” Her questions start out normal, but by question 10, she’ll ask stuff like “Have you ever seen my son in the nude, and if not, do you have plans to?”
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Wednesday, June 6,2012

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We'll always have parasites

by Amy Alkon
Q: My boyfriend of two months is a gem, but his house is a horror. The fridge and bathroom are disgusting, and the whole place is seriously messy. There’s this eerie feeling that the house was formerly homey, like nothing has changed since his wife left him three years ago — down to the box of sanitary pads in the bathroom cupboard and the very wife-ish folksy kitchen art everywhere.
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Wednesday, May 30,2012

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Wedding her whistle & youth is fleeing

by Amy Alkon
Q: I just turned 26, and I’m ready to be married. My previous two boyfriends dragged their feet and then said the blood-boiling line: “I will marry you…someday.” I met a guy online, and we initiated a relationship on the basis that he was ready for marriage. Four months after our first kiss, I broke up with him after he, too, expressed hesitation about marriage.
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Wednesday, May 23,2012

Advice Goddess

by Amy Alkon
Q: I asked my boyfriend for his email password so I could look at a message he’d mentioned. He grabbed my laptop and said he’d log in and forward it to me. He is a good guy and has never given me reason to distrust him, but if you aren’t hiding anything, why would you care whether your girlfriend can read your email, Facebook messages, whatever? He says he feels that people should have a certain amount of privacy in a relationship and doesn’t believe in sharing his passwords. Really? Not even with the woman he’s been sleeping with for two years? —Suspicious
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Wednesday, May 16,2012

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I get a kickball out of you & last tango in suburban living room

by Amy Alkon
Q: My boyfriend of three months is 22, and so am I. He tells me he loves me but is horrible about returning texts and calls and following through with dates. (He seems to ditch me if something better comes along.) He also doesn’t treat me very well around others. Recently, he got really drunk at a party and was hitting on my friend all night, though she ignored him. I finally pulled him aside and said he was hurting my feelings, and he said I was too sensitive and I’m just jealous that people like him. He later disappeared from the party for over an hour, and when I asked him where he’d gone, he said, “What are you, my mom?”
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