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Wednesday, November 19,2014

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Moby Dickhead And Getting Their Clause Into Him

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 19 — Q: In social situations, my boyfriend will often pretend to have read books I know he hasn’t. He doesn’t just fake it with some casual “Yeah, I read that.” He will try to say something deep and philosophical but can end up not making much sense. He’s too smart to need to do this. Is there something I can say to persuade him to stop?
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Wednesday, November 12,2014

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Scoot Force And The Awful Poof

by Amy Alkon
advicegoddess_headshot.jpgWEDNESDAY, NOV. 12 — Q: My husband’s been saving for a motorcycle, and I was excited about riding on the back, hanging on to him — sexy and fun! But then he came home with a Vespa, the little Italian scooter. It just seems so girly. The tiny wheels make it look like a toy, and he’s a big guy, so it looks like he’s borrowed a little kid’s bike. How can I get him to take it back?
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Wednesday, November 5,2014

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Along Came Polygraph And Shrieking Beauty

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 5 — Q: I’m an aspiring comedian — seriously aspiring — so I’m out most nights doing stand-up. My girlfriend gets upset about all the time I put into this and expects my nights off to be spent with her. Recently, I was going to an open mic, when a friend called and invited me to a birthday party. I ended up blowing off stand-up for the party, but later, my girlfriend asked me how stand-up went and I just said “fine.” I don’t normally lie, but looking back, I was just tired and not up for a drawn-out conversation. The next morning, I said something about the party, and she realized that I’d lied. Now she is upset and says that if I’d lie about something so insignificant, maybe I’m lying about bigger things.
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Wednesday, October 29,2014

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Scold Rush And Zero Dark Flirty

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, OCT. 29 — Q: I try to be direct, but my girlfriend often sees this as meanness. For example, when we’re out to dinner, she sometimes takes forever to order when the server is standing right there. I’ll call her out on this — tell her she was rude to keep the guy waiting. Personally, I think it’s unhealthy in the long run to keep quiet about issues, but my girlfriend gets upset whenever I give her constructive criticism. How can I convince her that she’s being too sensitive?
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Wednesday, October 22,2014

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The Agony Of Delete And Louvre, Actually

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, OCT. 22 — Q: I just had the humiliating experience of being dumped via email. I’d been seeing the guy for three months. Just days before, we had a romantic date, and he kept saying things like “We're so good together” and was very lovey-dovey. In the email, he said he realized that we aren’t compatible, because I’m too driven and career-focused and he needs a more traditional woman. Why did he never mention this before? How does a guy who was very affectionate for months suddenly take to the computer to send you a quick note that it’s over? I’m so hurt and confused by how he handled this.
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Wednesday, October 15,2014

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Knight Terrors And You’ve Got Tail

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, OCT. 15 — Q: I’m a woman in my early 30s. I was one of the employees who got laid off after my employer lost a big account. I’ve found a new job, but it’s not on my career path and it pays terribly. Still, it’s a job and it pays. I live with my boyfriend, and we’ve always split the expenses, but he’s trying to persuade me to keep looking for something better and to let him pay the bills until I find it. He keeps saying he’s “happy to do that,” but I just can’t stomach it. I’ve always supported myself and taken pride in not being the sort of woman who sponges off a man, and I’m not ready to start now.
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Wednesday, October 8,2014

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Will Onesies Never Cease? And Take A Toad Off

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, OCT. 8 — Q: My married friend just had a baby and posts what’s essentially the same “Look how cuuute!” shot on Facebook several times daily. Beyond finding this annoyingly boring, I’m 32 and unhappily single, and seeing all of her blissful pix is making me envious and resentful. Is it wrong to secretly block her photos? I feel it would be better for our friendship.
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Wednesday, October 1,2014

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Fasten Your Bible Belt

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, OCT. 1 — Q: My boyfriend and I are spending Christmas with his family. I like them and get along well with them. However, they’re very religious, and he wants me to join them in going to holiday church services. I grew up secular in a conservative town, and because of all I went through, I developed a deep distaste for religion. His family knows I’m an atheist but doesn’t know the extent of my aversion to religion. I explained to my boyfriend that the idea of sitting through church and going through the motions, given how I feel about religion, is downright upsetting to me. Though he’s no longer religious, he doesn't share my aversion, and he insists I go out of respect for him and his family. Should I just go and grin and bear it as a favor to him?
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Wednesday, September 24,2014

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Heavy Meddle And Curl, Interrupted

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 24 — Q: Is it okay to keep your income a secret from someone you’re dating? I recently started seeing a girl I work with (at an advertising company). She believes women at our company get paid less on average, and I suspect she’s right. Yesterday she came right out and asked me how much I make. I’m pretty sure I’m the highest-paid person on our team, but her question made me really uncomfortable, and I told her I make a lot less than I actually do. I felt bad lying to a woman I could get serious with, but I don’t want her or other co-workers knowing my salary.
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Wednesday, September 17,2014

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To Leech According To Her Needs And For Whom The Wind Chimes Toll

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 17 — Q: My roommate’s girlfriend is unemployed and just hangs around our place all week, even when he’s at work. (She has her own place but is never there.) She’s very wasteful with our utilities. Yesterday, after work, I found her in the living roo...
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