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Wednesday, April 29,2015

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All The Single M’ladies And Hitting Rocker Bottom

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, April 29 — Q: I read your manners book and loved it. I just feel that for most men, chivalry is dead. Maybe feminism killed it, and maybe men have just gotten lazy. Well, I was staying over at a (platonic) male friend’s house, keeping him company because he’s sick with cancer. Despite that, I woke up to him serving me breakfast in bed! Is it really so much to ask for a guy I’m actually sleeping with to at least hold the door open for me? I mean, come on!
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Wednesday, April 22,2015

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Eat, Pray You’ll Shut Up, Love And Toad Rash

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, April 22 — Q: I’ve always been a feelings stuffer, but I’ve been reading about vulnerability creating intimacy, blah, blah, blah, so I’m trying to be an open book. Though my boyfriend appreciates this, he keeps telling me there’s a line between expressiveness and my making everything an emotional issue to be hashed out. He last said this when I confessed that I had Googled his ex-girlfriend and felt threatened by how pretty she is. Should I have kept that to myself?
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Wednesday, April 15,2015

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Shake It Till You Make It

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, April 15 — Q: I'm new to online dating. I'm a nice, good-looking guy with a good job, but I have a muscular condition that causes me to shake a lot. I’m not looking to fool anyone, but I don’t want to advertise my condition on my profile because it’s so p...
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Wednesday, April 8,2015

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Malice In Wonderland and Two Brokeback Girls

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, April 8 — Q: My boyfriend has a crazy ex-wife who can’t let go. She is the meanest, most vengeful and manipulative person, initially convincing the 15-year-old son she has with my boyfriend that I’m the reason “Dad won’t come back.” (He actually divorced her after she, in a fit of rage, made a false police report about him.) She also slashed my tires and spread a rumor that my boyfriend is a child molester. I love him dearly, and we feel we're soul mates, but his ex-wife is making it so hard to be happy. What can I do?
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Wednesday, April 1,2015

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Flee Circus

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, April 1 — Q: My mom left when I was young, and my former husband left me, too. Maybe because of this, I’ve noticed that I’m quick to assume that any man I’m seeing is ditching me. In the early stages of dating, if there’s a lag in calling or texting me back, I’ll lash out — block the guy on Facebook and delete him from my phone — only to feel stupid when I learn that his phone battery died or he was already asleep. As a relationship progresses, I still perceive relatively innocuous things as signs it’s over, and I keep testing a guy’s limits with demands and drama, pushing him to (finally) bail. How do I stop doing this? It’s totally unconscious in the moment.
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Wednesday, March 25,2015

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Wane Of Terror And Baby Got Backpack

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 25 — Q: I’ve been seeing this guy long distance. I haven’t really been feeling it and kind of let it drop off, thinking he’d get the hint. He keeps texting and calling. I keep telling him I’m just really busy. The truth is I’ve met somebody else. Do I have to tell him?
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Wednesday, March 18,2015

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Eyes That Light Up A Womb

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 11 — Q: I’m a 35-year-old guy who’s doing online dating and who’s against having kids for moral reasons. Don’t get me wrong; I love kids. I just don’t think we need any more people on this crowded, violent planet. I’m wondering whether I should make the “no kids” thing clear in my profile. I know this can be a major deal-breaker for many women.
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Wednesday, March 11,2015

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The Sociopath Of Least Resistance and Dear In The Headlights

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 11 — Q: My girlfriend has been hurt, cheated on, and even ripped off in past relationships, and I’m paying the price. If I don’t text back immediately, she is convinced I’m dumping her and flips out. If I’m busy, she thinks I’m with another girl or abandoning her. When I do something sweet, she thinks I’m trying to play her. All I want is to have a nice relationship with her. Am I fighting a losing battle, or can a little good from a caring, ethical guy allow a woman to let go of a lot of bad?
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Wednesday, March 4,2015

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The Taming Of The Spew and Wait Management

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, MARCH 4 — Q: This guy I’m dating usually texts back when I text him. But sometimes, like last night, he doesn’t write back. And I’m just texting stuff like “How was your night?” — not “OMG, I miss you.” His not responding feels so disrespectful. I want to read him the riot act.
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Wednesday, February 25,2015

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Hope Fiend and Boys Will Be Decoys

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, FEB. 25 — Q: I met this man a few years ago, and it was like a thunderbolt struck us -- the stuff movies are made of. He told me that his female roommate was just a friend. We went on a few dates before I realized she was actually his girlfriend. He promised that they were going to break up, so I hung around for a bit, but of course it never happened. Last year, I ran into him, and he said he was no longer with that woman and wanted to date me. I turned him down flat because I figured that if he was going to lie and cheat on her, then he would do the same to me. I’m kicking myself now because I have never met anyone like him. Is it really “once a cheater, always a cheater,” or could it be different for us? I have to put this to bed in my mind because I can't stop thinking I missed out on “the one.”
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