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Wednesday, June 24,2015

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Crowd Mary And Grin Acres

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, June 24 — Q: I’m trying to take a break from dating and work on myself because I keep ending up with really jerky guys. I’m an extrovert — very social and outgoing — and I find it hard to just chill by myself. I get bored and lonely. I want to pick better guys, but I hate being alone on a Saturday night with a phone that doesn’t ring.
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Wednesday, June 17,2015

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Beyond Thunderdomes And Tinder Mercies

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, June 17 — Q: I have a great circle of female friends, but one of “the group” has a way of making backhanded comments about my appearance that make me feel bad about myself. Her latest topic is my breasts and how much smaller they are than hers. Incredibly, she manages to work this into any conversation — exercising, fashion, shopping, camping. If I confronted her, I know she’d act as though she’s been paying me compliments. (“But you're SO lucky to have small boobs!”) How can I get her to stop?
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Wednesday, June 10,2015

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Dork Matter And Break Room With A View

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, June 10 — Q: I’m just out of a bad relationship and ready to start dating. I recently met a guy I liked at the mall. There was definitely a physical attraction, and we had a lot in common, but not an hour after we met, he sent me a text that said, “Miss you already.” That set off red flags for me. Sweet or creepy? I’m on the fence.
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Wednesday, June 3,2015

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Owe, Baby, Baby

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, June 3 — Q: My girlfriend always cries that she’s “broke.” I just ended up buying her groceries and paying to have her car fixed, and then I discovered by accident that she’d recently paid hundreds of dollars for hair extensions, beauty products, and a facial. She isn’t the first girlfriend I’ve had who prioritizes beauty stuff over necessities. I really don’t get some women’s relationship with money.
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Wednesday, May 27,2015

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Rise And Spine And To Boldly No Where No No Has Gone Before

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, May 27 — Q: My fiance is good friends with his ex-girlfriend from college. (We’re all in our 30s.) She isn’t a romantic threat, but she’s become a source of stress. Long before I met my boyfriend, they began hanging out at a local bar together twice a week. They still do this, and I go along, but I’ve increasingly found these evenings a draining time-suck. When I don’t want to go, my fiance hangs at home with me. This prompts a tantrum from his ex-girlfriend, complete with a barrage of angry texts. I’ve tried reasoning with her, but she claims that when he was single, he “dragged (her) out constantly” so he still owes her. My boyfriend is a laid-back, nonconfrontational kind of guy and just says she needs to calm down.
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Wednesday, May 20,2015

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The File High Club And Feral Hugs

by Amy Alkon
Q: A year ago, a co-worker I had a crush on made moves on me after hours at work, and we stopped just short of having sex. I saw him as a potential boyfriend, and I emphasized that I was not interested in casual sex. He told me at the time that he had broken up with his girlfriend but two days later said they’d made up. Several times since, when his relationship has been on the rocks, he’s suggested we have sex. I told him I want no physical contact with him ever again, and now he rarely speaks to me, despite seeing me daily at work. I considered him a friend, so I’m devastated he took advantage of me and was only interested in cheating. I’m finding it really hard to heal and move on.
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Wednesday, May 13,2015

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The Shoo Must Go On And Socks And The City

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, May 13 — Q: I’ve been dating this guy long distance for six months. He’ll often fail to return texts for an entire day or even a few days. I keep breaking up with him, but he keeps apologizing, acknowledging that he can be “distracted” and then offering convincing excuses or making me feel I’m overreacting. This is getting old.
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Wednesday, May 6,2015

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Smells Like Bean Spirit And Meet Joe Blank

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, May 6 — Q: My girlfriend of a year is 51 and lovely in most areas — except one: She often passes gas and recently started belching audibly. She is a psychotherapist, dresses nicely, and has great figure. However, she grew up in a male-dominated, military home. She thinks I’m “weird” and “overly sensitive” to be disturbed by these behaviors, but I, like most men, like the whole “feminine” thing. I now feel less attracted to her, and our sex life has diminished somewhat. I wonder whether I’m being tested in some way.
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Wednesday, April 29,2015

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All The Single M’ladies And Hitting Rocker Bottom

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, April 29 — Q: I read your manners book and loved it. I just feel that for most men, chivalry is dead. Maybe feminism killed it, and maybe men have just gotten lazy. Well, I was staying over at a (platonic) male friend’s house, keeping him company because he’s sick with cancer. Despite that, I woke up to him serving me breakfast in bed! Is it really so much to ask for a guy I’m actually sleeping with to at least hold the door open for me? I mean, come on!
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Wednesday, April 22,2015

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Eat, Pray You’ll Shut Up, Love And Toad Rash

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, April 22 — Q: I’ve always been a feelings stuffer, but I’ve been reading about vulnerability creating intimacy, blah, blah, blah, so I’m trying to be an open book. Though my boyfriend appreciates this, he keeps telling me there’s a line between expressiveness and my making everything an emotional issue to be hashed out. He last said this when I confessed that I had Googled his ex-girlfriend and felt threatened by how pretty she is. Should I have kept that to myself?
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