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Wednesday, December 31,2014

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You’ve Got Bail And Man Of Squeal

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 31 — Q: I am not attracted to “nice guys.” I’m in my early 30s, and I don’t think I have low self-esteem. I don’t like to be mistreated, either. In fact, I want somebody loving and faithful, but I find the guys I “should” be dating predictable and boring. (So cliche, I know.) I seem to end up dating guys who cheat on me and have problems with the law. Is there such a thing as a good man who’s also a bad boy?
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Tuesday, December 23,2014

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All Of Meh And I Would Dye For You

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 23 — Q: I’m a 30-something woman, and my best friend is a guy. We talk and text day and night, and I truly adore him. All our friends think we should be dating, but I don’t feel sexually attracted to him. I agree that we’d otherwise make a perfect couple. Can chemistry grow or be built?
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Wednesday, December 17,2014

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You Delete Me And Leave Of Absinthe

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 17 — Q: I’m trying to get over my ex, but I’m constantly checking his Twitter and Facebook pages, and I get really upset. I’ll see pix of women or see that he’s gone to some event and wonder whether he met anyone there. It’s crazy-making, but I can’t seem to stop looking.
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Wednesday, December 10,2014

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The Company You Keep Away And Lawn And Order

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 10 — Q: I’ve got an intense attraction to this musician I’ve been dating for four months. He’s on the road a lot, plus he’s new to the city and recently out of a relationship. He says he’s not ready to get serious now and just told me he wants us to be non-monogamous. The more I try to get close the more he pulls away. My girlfriends told me to stop chasing him and be much less available. I tried being less present, which, to my surprise, made him miss me and be more attentive. I’m disgusted at the need for manipulative game playing. How much longer do I need to keep this up?
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Wednesday, December 3,2014

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American Idle And Jurassic Spark

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 3 — Q: My girlfriend is beautiful, highly intelligent, and interesting. She’s smart for a living (as a strategic planner in advertising), so I find it sad that she watches so much television — maybe two hours of it upon coming home from work. She could be spending her time doing so many other things.
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Wednesday, November 26,2014

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Belittle Richard And Skirt Stake

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 26 — Q: My girlfriend says she likes that I’m smart but says I can be “on” too much of the time. For example, if someone pronounces a word wrong or uses it incorrectly, I’ll correct them. If they talk about their fad diet, I’ll explain why it doesn’t make scientific sense. My girlfriend says I am “condescending” and make people feel bad. That’s not my intention. It’s a matter of right and wrong. How can I help her understand that I just care about getting the facts out?
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Wednesday, November 19,2014

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Moby Dickhead And Getting Their Clause Into Him

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 19 — Q: In social situations, my boyfriend will often pretend to have read books I know he hasn’t. He doesn’t just fake it with some casual “Yeah, I read that.” He will try to say something deep and philosophical but can end up not making much sense. He’s too smart to need to do this. Is there something I can say to persuade him to stop?
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Wednesday, November 12,2014

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Scoot Force And The Awful Poof

by Amy Alkon
advicegoddess_headshot.jpgWEDNESDAY, NOV. 12 — Q: My husband’s been saving for a motorcycle, and I was excited about riding on the back, hanging on to him — sexy and fun! But then he came home with a Vespa, the little Italian scooter. It just seems so girly. The tiny wheels make it look like a toy, and he’s a big guy, so it looks like he’s borrowed a little kid’s bike. How can I get him to take it back?
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Wednesday, November 5,2014

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Along Came Polygraph And Shrieking Beauty

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 5 — Q: I’m an aspiring comedian — seriously aspiring — so I’m out most nights doing stand-up. My girlfriend gets upset about all the time I put into this and expects my nights off to be spent with her. Recently, I was going to an open mic, when a friend called and invited me to a birthday party. I ended up blowing off stand-up for the party, but later, my girlfriend asked me how stand-up went and I just said “fine.” I don’t normally lie, but looking back, I was just tired and not up for a drawn-out conversation. The next morning, I said something about the party, and she realized that I’d lied. Now she is upset and says that if I’d lie about something so insignificant, maybe I’m lying about bigger things.
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Wednesday, October 29,2014

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Scold Rush And Zero Dark Flirty

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, OCT. 29 — Q: I try to be direct, but my girlfriend often sees this as meanness. For example, when we’re out to dinner, she sometimes takes forever to order when the server is standing right there. I’ll call her out on this — tell her she was rude to keep the guy waiting. Personally, I think it’s unhealthy in the long run to keep quiet about issues, but my girlfriend gets upset whenever I give her constructive criticism. How can I convince her that she’s being too sensitive?
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