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Wednesday, February 4,2015

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Stay-At-Home Martyr And Between The Spreadsheets

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, FEB. 04 — Q: I just moved in with the love of my life. Her former boyfriend from years ago lives in her downstairs “granny unit.” My girlfriend recently revealed that along with financially subsidizing him, she’s still doing his laundry because “it's just easier.” He is 50 and previously earned a lot of money repairing computers and being a handyman, but he is not “into” working. My girlfriend is a therapist and sees a therapist, who has advised a proper separation. Amazingly, my girlfriend would rather she and I move out than insist he leave (though the home and loan are hers!). I’m worried that this will be one long, frustrating ride.
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Wednesday, January 28,2015

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Rant’s Tomb And Merchant Of Vroom

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, JAN. 28 — Q: I’m a woman in my early 20s. I do fine getting dates, but only first dates. And no, I’m not having sex with guys on the first date, but I still never hear from them again. I ran into one of these guys at a party and begged him to tell me what had gone wrong. He said, “You’re kind of intense.” I asked him to explain, and he said, “You do a lot of talking.” I do talk a lot, but I’m informed and opinionated. Do I really have to be some mute little woman to get second dates?
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Wednesday, January 21,2015

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Playing With Mismatches And Seismic Matters

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, JAN. 21 — Q: I like this woman I’ve been seeing, but she’s really in love with me. I’ve been clear that I’m not ready to get more serious and that I’m really never going to be up for that with her. She’s chosen to stick around, but her best friend called me crying, saying I’m breaking her heart. (Yikes!) Is it wrong to stay with somebody whose feelings are much stronger than yours?
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Wednesday, January 14,2015

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Urning Curve And Demotion Sickness

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, JAN. 14 — Q: My boyfriend of eight months was with his ex for almost five years. Unfortunately, she passed two years ago. I have sympathy for him, but occasionally he’ll call me by her name, and it’s really upsetting. I feel like she’s haunting his brain, and I don’t know how to do an exorcism. How do I take my rightful place in his life?
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Wednesday, January 7,2015

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Leave Story And Pal Rider

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, JAN. 7 — Q: I had an amazing first date with this guy: dinner, a movie, a stroll around the park, and a passionate good-night kiss. That was two weeks ago. Since then, I haven’t heard a peep. How was it awesome for me but not for him? Were we, unbeknownst to me, on two different dates?
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Wednesday, December 31,2014

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You’ve Got Bail And Man Of Squeal

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 31 — Q: I am not attracted to “nice guys.” I’m in my early 30s, and I don’t think I have low self-esteem. I don’t like to be mistreated, either. In fact, I want somebody loving and faithful, but I find the guys I “should” be dating predictable and boring. (So cliche, I know.) I seem to end up dating guys who cheat on me and have problems with the law. Is there such a thing as a good man who’s also a bad boy?
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Tuesday, December 23,2014

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All Of Meh And I Would Dye For You

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 23 — Q: I’m a 30-something woman, and my best friend is a guy. We talk and text day and night, and I truly adore him. All our friends think we should be dating, but I don’t feel sexually attracted to him. I agree that we’d otherwise make a perfect couple. Can chemistry grow or be built?
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Wednesday, December 17,2014

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You Delete Me And Leave Of Absinthe

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 17 — Q: I’m trying to get over my ex, but I’m constantly checking his Twitter and Facebook pages, and I get really upset. I’ll see pix of women or see that he’s gone to some event and wonder whether he met anyone there. It’s crazy-making, but I can’t seem to stop looking.
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Wednesday, December 10,2014

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The Company You Keep Away And Lawn And Order

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 10 — Q: I’ve got an intense attraction to this musician I’ve been dating for four months. He’s on the road a lot, plus he’s new to the city and recently out of a relationship. He says he’s not ready to get serious now and just told me he wants us to be non-monogamous. The more I try to get close the more he pulls away. My girlfriends told me to stop chasing him and be much less available. I tried being less present, which, to my surprise, made him miss me and be more attentive. I’m disgusted at the need for manipulative game playing. How much longer do I need to keep this up?
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Wednesday, December 3,2014

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American Idle And Jurassic Spark

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 3 — Q: My girlfriend is beautiful, highly intelligent, and interesting. She’s smart for a living (as a strategic planner in advertising), so I find it sad that she watches so much television — maybe two hours of it upon coming home from work. She could be spending her time doing so many other things.
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