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Wednesday, July 25,2012

Advice Goddess

Better luck nest time & you deplete me

by Amy Alkon
Q: For nine months, I've been having fun seeing a nice woman a few times a week. We're both 50ish. I told her I didn't want a serious relationship. She went along with this but now clearly wants more. She has a picture of me at her desk.
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Wednesday, July 18,2012

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Bitter homes and gardens & making shove last

by Amy Alkon
Q: If your wife says another man's name while making love, what does that mean? It was her ex's name — my stepson's dad. She apologized, saying it was only because she remembered needing to call him about problems their son's having at school.
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Wednesday, July 11,2012

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Dew drop your pants & snail male

by Amy Alkon
Q: I broke up with my guy a while ago, which was the right thing to do. But, I’ve found myself hooking up with guys for no reason other than getting caught in a provocative moment. Of course, as you’ve often written, men and women are very different when it comes to casual sex, and what’s casual for men ends up feeling not so casual for a lot of women. Including me. So, I have to wonder, knowing what I know, why I keep going for pleasure and excitement in the moment when I know I will feel empty afterward.
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Wednesday, April 4,2012

Advice Goddess

You lite up my life & stare way to heaven

by Amy Alkon
Q: A guy wrote you about a girl he sees at a coffee shop — a girl he suspects is out of his league. You said the way to know for sure is by asking her out. Bad Advice Goddess! This suggests that he should regard all women with whatever she’s got — like if she’s “too beautiful” — as out of his league. That just isn't right. There’s probably a “too beautiful” woman out there who’d go for him.
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Wednesday, November 30,2011

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Pest wife regression & Speaking ill of the dud

by Amy Alkon
Q: Two years ago, my man left his 22-year marriage to be with me, but he told me he loved his former wife and would always want a friendship with her. I accepted that (I m friends with my ex), but I m bothered by the amount of contact they have. They do have two adult children and own property together. But, although she s living with a new partner, she sometimes wants to borrow his car, have him pick up the dogs, or drop off some paperwork. They phone about every other day, and not a week goes by without his stopping over occasionally for a family dinner. I get plenty of his time, energy and affection, and I know their relationship isn t romantic. The issue is split loyalty all the effort he s putting into remaining loving friends with a woman who d love to see our relationship fail. Am I being petty and jealous? It feels like she’s clinging hard and so is he.
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Wednesday, April 20,2011

Advice Goddess

by Amy Alkon
Q: I’ve been married for 10 years. I’m 43, well-educated, financially well-off, and fit. My husband and I are wonderful friends, and I love him dearly. However, for reasons he won’t tell me, he decided eight years ago that he was no longer interested in sex. He says it&rs...
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Wednesday, April 13,2011

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This American strife & Love is bland

by Amy Alkon
Q: My boyfriend of 10 months asked me for my idea of a romantic evening, and I said I think it’s really romantic to make dinner together. He asked for specifics, and I ended up pretty much describing what my last boyfriend and I used to do: have wine and cheese, burn this particular incense I love, listen to “This American Life,” then make dinner together.
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Wednesday, April 6,2011

Advice Goddess

Too-big love & take a rein check

by Amy Alkon
Q: I’m an older woman (almost 50) in a six-year live-in relationship with a 25-year-old guy. The problem is he wants to sleep with other girls. I understand his need to be with other girls, especially at his age. Although I consented, I love him and cannot bear the thought of this.
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Wednesday, March 30,2011

Advice Goddess

Miffed connection & Leave actually

by Amy Alkon
Sometimes, the reason is that they are nervous and socially awkward and burp out the first thing they can that’s made of words.
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Wednesday, March 16,2011

Advice Goddess

’Can you hear me now?’ & Must love dogs in bed

by Amy Alkon
Q: I have an online dating issue. When a man and I are going to have our first phone chat, I set up a specific day and time so we don’t have to play phone tag. This allows me to schedule around it and be prepared and at my computer viewing his profile when we talk. I take the man’s number and call him, because I’m not comfortable giving out mine right away. During my several years of online dating, the percentage of guys who aren’t there at the planned time has been about 90. Many never contact me again, even to explain or apologize.—Feeling Very Stood Up
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