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Wednesday, December 17,2014

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You Delete Me And Leave Of Absinthe

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 17 — Q: I’m trying to get over my ex, but I’m constantly checking his Twitter and Facebook pages, and I get really upset. I’ll see pix of women or see that he’s gone to some event and wonder whether he met anyone there. It’s crazy-making, but I can’t seem to stop looking.
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Wednesday, December 10,2014

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The Company You Keep Away And Lawn And Order

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 10 — Q: I’ve got an intense attraction to this musician I’ve been dating for four months. He’s on the road a lot, plus he’s new to the city and recently out of a relationship. He says he’s not ready to get serious now and just told me he wants us to be non-monogamous. The more I try to get close the more he pulls away. My girlfriends told me to stop chasing him and be much less available. I tried being less present, which, to my surprise, made him miss me and be more attentive. I’m disgusted at the need for manipulative game playing. How much longer do I need to keep this up?
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Wednesday, December 3,2014

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American Idle And Jurassic Spark

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, DEC. 3 — Q: My girlfriend is beautiful, highly intelligent, and interesting. She’s smart for a living (as a strategic planner in advertising), so I find it sad that she watches so much television — maybe two hours of it upon coming home from work. She could be spending her time doing so many other things.
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Wednesday, November 26,2014

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Belittle Richard And Skirt Stake

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 26 — Q: My girlfriend says she likes that I’m smart but says I can be “on” too much of the time. For example, if someone pronounces a word wrong or uses it incorrectly, I’ll correct them. If they talk about their fad diet, I’ll explain why it doesn’t make scientific sense. My girlfriend says I am “condescending” and make people feel bad. That’s not my intention. It’s a matter of right and wrong. How can I help her understand that I just care about getting the facts out?
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Wednesday, November 19,2014

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Moby Dickhead And Getting Their Clause Into Him

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 19 — Q: In social situations, my boyfriend will often pretend to have read books I know he hasn’t. He doesn’t just fake it with some casual “Yeah, I read that.” He will try to say something deep and philosophical but can end up not making much sense. He’s too smart to need to do this. Is there something I can say to persuade him to stop?
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Wednesday, November 12,2014

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Scoot Force And The Awful Poof

by Amy Alkon
advicegoddess_headshot.jpgWEDNESDAY, NOV. 12 — Q: My husband’s been saving for a motorcycle, and I was excited about riding on the back, hanging on to him — sexy and fun! But then he came home with a Vespa, the little Italian scooter. It just seems so girly. The tiny wheels make it look like a toy, and he’s a big guy, so it looks like he’s borrowed a little kid’s bike. How can I get him to take it back?
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Wednesday, November 5,2014

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Along Came Polygraph And Shrieking Beauty

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 5 — Q: I’m an aspiring comedian — seriously aspiring — so I’m out most nights doing stand-up. My girlfriend gets upset about all the time I put into this and expects my nights off to be spent with her. Recently, I was going to an open mic, when a friend called and invited me to a birthday party. I ended up blowing off stand-up for the party, but later, my girlfriend asked me how stand-up went and I just said “fine.” I don’t normally lie, but looking back, I was just tired and not up for a drawn-out conversation. The next morning, I said something about the party, and she realized that I’d lied. Now she is upset and says that if I’d lie about something so insignificant, maybe I’m lying about bigger things.
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Wednesday, October 29,2014

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Scold Rush And Zero Dark Flirty

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, OCT. 29 — Q: I try to be direct, but my girlfriend often sees this as meanness. For example, when we’re out to dinner, she sometimes takes forever to order when the server is standing right there. I’ll call her out on this — tell her she was rude to keep the guy waiting. Personally, I think it’s unhealthy in the long run to keep quiet about issues, but my girlfriend gets upset whenever I give her constructive criticism. How can I convince her that she’s being too sensitive?
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Wednesday, October 22,2014

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The Agony Of Delete And Louvre, Actually

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, OCT. 22 — Q: I just had the humiliating experience of being dumped via email. I’d been seeing the guy for three months. Just days before, we had a romantic date, and he kept saying things like “We're so good together” and was very lovey-dovey. In the email, he said he realized that we aren’t compatible, because I’m too driven and career-focused and he needs a more traditional woman. Why did he never mention this before? How does a guy who was very affectionate for months suddenly take to the computer to send you a quick note that it’s over? I’m so hurt and confused by how he handled this.
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Wednesday, October 15,2014

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Knight Terrors And You’ve Got Tail

by Amy Alkon
WEDNESDAY, OCT. 15 — Q: I’m a woman in my early 30s. I was one of the employees who got laid off after my employer lost a big account. I’ve found a new job, but it’s not on my career path and it pays terribly. Still, it’s a job and it pays. I live with my boyfriend, and we’ve always split the expenses, but he’s trying to persuade me to keep looking for something better and to let him pay the bills until I find it. He keeps saying he’s “happy to do that,” but I just can’t stomach it. I’ve always supported myself and taken pride in not being the sort of woman who sponges off a man, and I’m not ready to start now.
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